Compassion is very important; wisdom is also very important. Being compassionate means caring for others, embracing them, loving them, helping them grow, and forgiving them. Wisdom means that we are capable of clearly observing our minds and recognizing our inner state. Wise people are not emotional, so they are able to influence their families to be less emotional. Because you are not emotional, no matter how people treat you, you won't react with emotion. Thus, people around you will gradually become less and less emotional. If we can cultivate and employ both compassion and wisdom, eventually we'll attain Buddhahood in a peaceful manner.