Monastic life is not an alternative escape for not being able to find a marriage partner. One should only become a monastic if one has had some inspirational experiences of life that make one want to take this path. When it comes to finding a suitable partner for marriage, character, instead of appearance, should be the first consideration. Look for qualities like virtue, kindness, honesty, and simplicity. Secondly, your spouse must be clearheaded. Thirdly, your spouse must be an understanding person who cares not only about you but about others as well.